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            <title type="html"><![CDATA[Property Division in California Divorce: Why Classification Matters]]></title>
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            <id>https://www.harrisandfraser.com/?p=49842</id>
            <updated>2026-06-08T07:47:23Z</updated>
            <published>2026-04-15T18:21:32Z</published>
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            <summary type="html"><![CDATA[Dividing property in a California divorce is rarely as simple as splitting everything in half. For many individuals and families in the Bay Area, the financial picture is layered, including homes with significant equity, stock options, brokerage accounts, retirement accounts, and business interests. At the center of these decisions is one key question: What is community property, and what is…]]></summary>
			                <content type="html" xml:base="https://www.harrisandfraser.com/blog/2026/04/property-division-in-california-divorce-why-classification-matters/"><![CDATA[Dividing property in a California divorce is rarely as simple as splitting everything in half. For many individuals and families in the Bay Area, the financial picture is layered, including homes with significant equity, stock options, brokerage accounts, retirement accounts, and business interests.

At the center of these decisions is one key question: <em>What is community property, and what is separate property?</em> The answer directly shapes how your property interests and your financial future are handled.
<h3>Community Property: What Was Acquired During the Marriage</h3>
<a href="https://protect.checkpoint.com/v2/r01/___https:/leginfo.legislature.ca.gov/faces/codes_displaySection.xhtml?lawCode=FAM&amp;sectionNum=760.___.YzJ1OndlYm1kOmM6ZzpiNjk4NzA0ZWY3OGIyZGZjNTlhMmQ1ZWU1Y2RkMWJkNTo3OjU0NzI6MjA5YmQxZjE2Nzg5MjhiZTZlNmUxMzhhNzAwZWFmNGE2ZDFmYzBmMmNlNmVmMGI1MzY5OTJhOTM4YzVjNGRlZDpwOlQ6Rg" data-wpel-link="external" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">California Family Code § 760</a> defines community property as income and property acquired during the marriage, regardless of which spouse earned or purchased them.

This often includes:
<ul>
 	<li>Salary, bonuses, and stock options earned during the marriage</li>
 	<li>Real estate purchased while married</li>
 	<li>Retirement accounts accrued over time</li>
 	<li>Business interests developed or expanded during the marriage</li>
</ul>
In most cases, community property is divided equally. However, identifying what truly belongs in this category can become complex, particularly when property evolves over time.
<h3>Separate Property: What Remains Individual/h3>
<a href="https://protect.checkpoint.com/v2/r01/___https:/leginfo.legislature.ca.gov/faces/codes_displaySection.xhtml?lawCode=FAM&amp;sectionNum=770.___.YzJ1OndlYm1kOmM6ZzpiNjk4NzA0ZWY3OGIyZGZjNTlhMmQ1ZWU1Y2RkMWJkNTo3OjVkMzU6ZGZlZWZlYjhlYzBjZjk2MTU5NDVhN2NiMDIzYmJiMGI5OWIwNWY4NDI0YWM2MjhiYjZkODhmMGQ0NmExZDI2YTpwOlQ6Rg" data-wpel-link="external" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">California Family Code § 770</a> defines separate property as property that belongs to one spouse individually. This typically includes:
<ul>
 	<li>Property owned prior to the marriage</li>
 	<li>Gifts given specifically to one spouse</li>
 	<li>Inheritance received by one spouse</li>
</ul>
Gifts and inheritance acquired during the marriage are often considered separate property, provided they can be clearly traced to their source.

However, classification does not stop at labeling. The spouse claiming separate property must be able to trace it clearly to its original source. For example, separate property funds may be used as a down payment on a home purchased during the marriage or to improve an existing property. In these situations, tracing those funds is essential to determine whether a separate property interest exists within what is otherwise considered community property.
<h3>Where Distinctions Begin to Blur And Why It Matters</h3>
In many divorces, property is not clearly defined as purely community or separate. Instead, it often becomes intertwined over time. For example, a home purchased before marriage may be paid down using marital income, a business founded prior to marriage may grow significantly through efforts during the marriage, or investment accounts may include both pre-marriage and marital contributions.

These situations require careful and thoughtful analysis. Details such as how funds were used, when contributions were made, and how property was managed can all influence how it is ultimately classified. This distinction is not merely technical; it directly affects how property is divided and what each party takes away from the process.

Having experienced legal guidance in these situations is critical. Properly identifying, tracing, and characterizing property interests can make a meaningful difference in protecting your financial position and reaching a well-reasoned outcome.
<h3>A More Measured Approach to Property Division</h3>
At [nap_names id="FIRM-NAME-1"] the focus is not simply on dividing property, but on reaching equitable and reasonable outcomes that reflect the realities of each client’s situation.

Through Collaborative Divorce and mediation, clients are able to approach these decisions with clarity and intention, rather than conflict. In Collaborative Divorce and mediation, the parties are not strictly bound to follow the law. Instead, the law can serve as a framework for reaching equitable and reasonable resolutions that help preserve the integrity of the family.

With the right guidance, even complex financial matters can be resolved in a way that preserves both stability and dignity.

Contact [nap_names id="FIRM-NAME-1"] today for a compassionate and confidential consultation. You can reach us at [nap_phone id="LOCAL-CT-NUMBER-1"] or through our online contact form.]]></content>
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									                    <name>On Behalf of Harris and Fraser</name>
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            <title type="html"><![CDATA[Do&#8217;s and Don&#8217;ts of Social Media During a Divorce]]></title>
            <link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="https://www.harrisandfraser.com/blog/2025/10/dos-and-donts-of-social-media-during-a-divorce/" />
            <id>https://www.harrisandfraser.com/?p=49809</id>
            <updated>2026-06-17T16:33:08Z</updated>
            <published>2025-10-14T23:36:54Z</published>
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            <summary type="html"><![CDATA[Going through a divorce is a deeply personal journey. In an age where we share so much of our lives online, it’s easy to forget that what you post on social media can have real-world consequences, especially during a legal process. Navigating platforms like Facebook, Instagram, and X (formerly Twitter) with care is essential to protect your privacy, your emotional…]]></summary>
			                <content type="html" xml:base="https://www.harrisandfraser.com/blog/2025/10/dos-and-donts-of-social-media-during-a-divorce/"><![CDATA[<p class="text-body font-regular leading-[24px] pt-[9px] pb-xxs" dir="ltr">Going through a <a href="/family-law-overview/divorce/" data-wpel-link="internal">divorce</a> is a deeply personal journey. In an age where we share so much of our lives online, it's easy to forget that what you post on social media can have real-world consequences, especially during a legal process. Navigating platforms like Facebook, Instagram, and X (formerly Twitter) with care is essential to protect your privacy, your emotional well-being, and your case.</p>
<p class="text-body font-regular leading-[24px] pt-[9px] pb-xxs" dir="ltr">A seemingly harmless post can be taken out of context and used against you. That's why it's so important to be mindful of your digital footprint during this sensitive time.</p>

<h3 class="font-semibold pdf-heading-class-replace text-h4 leading-[30px] pb-xxs [&amp;:not(:first-child)]:pt-[15px] [&amp;_a]:underline-offset-[6px] [&amp;_.underline]:underline-offset-[6px]" dir="ltr">The Do's: What You Should Do</h3>
<ul class="pt-[9px] pb-xxs pl-5xl list-disc pt-[5px]">
 	<li class="text-body font-regular leading-[24px] my-[5px] [&amp;&gt;ol]:!pt-0 [&amp;&gt;ol]:!pb-0 [&amp;&gt;ul]:!pt-0 [&amp;&gt;ul]:!pb-0" dir="ltr" value="1"><b><strong class="font-semibold">Update Your Privacy Settings:</strong></b> The first step is to make all your social media profiles private. Limit who can see your posts to trusted friends and family. Review your friends list and consider removing anyone you don't know well or who has close ties to your ex-spouse.</li>
 	<li class="text-body font-regular leading-[24px] my-[5px] [&amp;&gt;ol]:!pt-0 [&amp;&gt;ol]:!pb-0 [&amp;&gt;ul]:!pt-0 [&amp;&gt;ul]:!pb-0" dir="ltr" value="2"><b><strong class="font-semibold">Think Before You Post:</strong></b> Before you share anything, ask yourself if you would be comfortable with a judge seeing it. This includes photos, status updates, and comments on others' posts.</li>
 	<li class="text-body font-regular leading-[24px] my-[5px] [&amp;&gt;ol]:!pt-0 [&amp;&gt;ol]:!pb-0 [&amp;&gt;ul]:!pt-0 [&amp;&gt;ul]:!pb-0" dir="ltr" value="3"><b><strong class="font-semibold">Be Mindful of Tagging:</strong></b> Pay attention to photos you are tagged in. A picture of you on vacation or making a large purchase could be misinterpreted and affect negotiations around finances or spousal support. You can adjust your settings to approve tags before they appear on your profile.</li>
</ul>
<h3 class="font-semibold pdf-heading-class-replace text-h4 leading-[30px] pb-xxs [&amp;:not(:first-child)]:pt-[15px] [&amp;_a]:underline-offset-[6px] [&amp;_.underline]:underline-offset-[6px]" dir="ltr">The Don'ts: What to Avoid</h3>
<ul class="pt-[9px] pb-xxs pl-5xl list-disc pt-[5px]">
 	<li class="text-body font-regular leading-[24px] my-[5px] [&amp;&gt;ol]:!pt-0 [&amp;&gt;ol]:!pb-0 [&amp;&gt;ul]:!pt-0 [&amp;&gt;ul]:!pb-0" dir="ltr" value="1"><b><strong class="font-semibold">Don't Post About Your Case:</strong></b> Never discuss the details of your divorce online. This includes complaining about your ex, their attorney, or the legal process itself. These posts can be used to show you are uncooperative or bitter.</li>
 	<li class="text-body font-regular leading-[24px] my-[5px] [&amp;&gt;ol]:!pt-0 [&amp;&gt;ol]:!pb-0 [&amp;&gt;ul]:!pt-0 [&amp;&gt;ul]:!pb-0" dir="ltr" value="2"><b><strong class="font-semibold">Don't Share New Relationships:</strong></b> It’s wise to keep any new romantic relationships private until your divorce is finalized. Posts about a new partner could impact custody arrangements or financial settlements.</li>
 	<li class="text-body font-regular leading-[24px] my-[5px] [&amp;&gt;ol]:!pt-0 [&amp;&gt;ol]:!pb-0 [&amp;&gt;ul]:!pt-0 [&amp;&gt;ul]:!pb-0" dir="ltr" value="3"><b><strong class="font-semibold">Don't Delete Anything:</strong></b> While it might be tempting to erase old posts, deleting digital evidence can be seen as destroying evidence, which can have serious legal repercussions. Instead, pause your posting activity and tighten your privacy settings.</li>
</ul>
<p class="text-body font-regular leading-[24px] pt-[9px] pb-xxs" dir="ltr">Managing your online presence is a simple yet powerful way to maintain control during your divorce.</p>

<h2 class="font-semibold pdf-heading-class-replace text-h3 leading-[40px] pb-xxs [&amp;:not(:first-child)]:pt-[21px] [&amp;_a]:underline-offset-[6px] [&amp;_.underline]:underline-offset-[6px]" dir="ltr">Protect Your Rights and Family During Divorce</h2>
<p class="text-body font-regular leading-[24px] pt-[9px] pb-xxs" dir="ltr">If you are considering a divorce and have questions about protecting yourself, or the process options available to you, we are here to help. Contact [nap_names id="FIRM-NAME-1"] today for a compassionate and confidential consultation. You can reach us at [nap_phone id="LOCAL-CT-NUMBER-1"] or through our <a href="https://www.harrisandfraser.com/contact/" data-wpel-link="internal">online contact form</a>.</p>]]></content>
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            <author>
									                    <name>On Behalf of Harris and Fraser</name>
				            </author>
            <title type="html"><![CDATA[How Collaborative Divorce Impacts A Woman&#8217;s Finances]]></title>
            <link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="https://www.harrisandfraser.com/blog/2022/12/how-divorce-impacts-a-womans-finances/" />
            <id>https://www.harrisandfraser.com/?p=49328</id>
            <updated>2026-06-19T00:45:41Z</updated>
            <published>2022-12-15T10:09:49Z</published>
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            <summary type="html"><![CDATA[Collaborative Divorce is difficult for everyone involved, but it can be incredibly challenging for women who have not been involved in the family’s finances during the marriage. In addition to the emotional upheaval, women are often left with significant financial challenges. Movies and television often depict ex-wives trying to get everything. However, real life offers us a much more challenging…]]></summary>
			                <content type="html" xml:base="https://www.harrisandfraser.com/blog/2022/12/how-divorce-impacts-a-womans-finances/"><![CDATA[Collaborative Divorce is difficult for everyone involved, but it can be incredibly challenging for women who have not been involved in the family’s finances during the marriage. In addition to the emotional upheaval, women are often left with significant financial challenges.

Movies and television often depict ex-wives trying to get everything. However, real life offers us a much more challenging picture.

<strong>Financial challenges that women face</strong>

Collaborative Divorce has a significant financial impact on women. Studies have shown that women experience a 27% decrease in income after divorce and are 27% more likely to fall into poverty than men. This decrease in income often leads to a decline in their standard of living and increased financial insecurity. Furthermore, if the woman stays in the family home, they have the financial burden of home maintenance. In contrast, most men see their household income increase by as much as 30%.

The gender wage gap significantly impacts a woman's economic security. The gender wage gap is the difference between what men and women are paid for doing the same job. It exists in every country and typically increases as women advance in their careers. In the United States, women earn approximately 79 cents for every dollar earned by men.

A woman earning less than her husband is more likely to experience a financial decline after a divorce. She may also have difficulty providing for her children and covering basic living expenses. The gender wage gap is a significant contributor to inequality between men and women, and its effects are felt long after a divorce.

For all these reasons, it is crucial for women to <a href="https://www.harrisandfraser.com/family-law-overview/divorce/" data-wpel-link="internal">be proactive</a> during the divorce process to ensure they get the best possible outcome for their financial future. Good planning and working with the right legal and financial team to educate and guide you during divorce can alleviate these inequities.

&nbsp;

&nbsp;

&nbsp;]]></content>
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	        <entry>
            <author>
									                    <name>On Behalf of Harris and Fraser</name>
				            </author>
            <title type="html"><![CDATA[What Are Digital Assets And How Do They Affect Your Collaborative Divorce?]]></title>
            <link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="https://www.harrisandfraser.com/blog/2022/12/what-are-digital-assets-and-how-do-they-affect-your-divorce/" />
            <id>https://www.harrisandfraser.com/?p=49320</id>
            <updated>2023-08-25T15:04:07Z</updated>
            <published>2022-12-01T11:42:45Z</published>
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            <summary type="html"><![CDATA[When the divorce process begins, you and your spouse will have to disclose any assets, income, debts and savings that would, typically, be divided respectfully between the both of you.  With the rise of technology, however, many assets are digital, which may affect what assets are divided in a divorce. Here’s what you should know: Blockchain technology  In the past…]]></summary>
			                <content type="html" xml:base="https://www.harrisandfraser.com/blog/2022/12/what-are-digital-assets-and-how-do-they-affect-your-divorce/"><![CDATA[<span style="font-weight: 400;">When the divorce process begins, you and your spouse will have to disclose any assets, income, debts and savings that would, typically, be divided respectfully between the both of you. </span>

<span style="font-weight: 400;">With the rise of technology, however, many assets are digital, which may affect what assets are divided in a divorce. Here’s what you should know:</span>
<h2><span style="font-weight: 400;">Blockchain technology </span></h2>
<span style="font-weight: 400;">In the past couple of decades, </span><a href="https://www.investopedia.com/terms/d/digital-asset-framework.asp" data-wpel-link="external" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer"><span style="font-weight: 400;">blockchain technology</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;"> has grown in the eyes of the public. Many people invest in blockchain technology to profit later in life. There are two common forms of blockchains: non-Fungible tokens (NFT) and cryptocurrency.</span>

<span style="font-weight: 400;">NFTs are unique data codes that are often used for monetary exchange. NFTs are bought and sold much like a car. Cryptocurrency works much the same way as NFTs but can easily be exchanged for data of equal value – similar to the exchange of US dollars to Euros. </span>

<span style="font-weight: 400;">What do NFTs and cryptocurrency have to do with marital assets? Digital assets aren’t exactly like money saved in the bank. Many of these assets' value fluctuates much like stocks or raise in value as it’s distributed and exchanged. Because of this, the true value of blockchain technology can be difficult to decide. </span>

<span style="font-weight: 400;">What you may also need to know is that digital assets can be easily hidden. You can’t exactly hold an NFT or bitcoin in your hand, so it can be hard to know if any exist. Financial statements may be able to show if any blockchain is hidden.</span>

<span style="font-weight: 400;">If you’re planning a divorce and need help discovering assets, you may need to </span><a href="https://www.harrisandfraser.com/family-law-overview/property-division/" data-wpel-link="internal"><span style="font-weight: 400;">reach out for legal assistance</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;">. </span>]]></content>
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	        <entry>
            <author>
									                    <name>On Behalf of Harris and Fraser</name>
				            </author>
            <title type="html"><![CDATA[Finding Common Ground With Your Ex]]></title>
            <link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="https://www.harrisandfraser.com/blog/2022/11/finding-common-ground-with-your-ex/" />
            <id>https://www.harrisandfraser.com/?p=49318</id>
            <updated>2023-08-25T15:04:36Z</updated>
            <published>2022-11-07T10:45:36Z</published>
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            <summary type="html"><![CDATA[You and your ex have recently divorced. It’s not as simple as you both just going your separate ways now because you have young children. The court has signed off on a custody agreement and it’s now up to you both to make it work. You had many differences during your marriage but it’s vital to let them go now.…]]></summary>
			                <content type="html" xml:base="https://www.harrisandfraser.com/blog/2022/11/finding-common-ground-with-your-ex/"><![CDATA[You and your ex have recently divorced. It’s not as simple as you both just going your separate ways now because you have young children.

The court has signed off on a custody agreement and it’s now up to you both to make it work. You had many differences during your marriage but it’s vital to let them go now. What’s important is that you find some <a href="https://www.ourfamilywizard.co.uk/blog/10-positive-co-parenting-tips" data-wpel-link="external" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">common ground with your ex</a>.

Outlined below are a few things to consider.
<h2>Getting the fundamentals right</h2>
You and your co-parent aren’t going to have identical styles when it comes to parenting. Nonetheless, it’s important to remain consistent on some of the fundamentals. For instance, will your child be brought up observing a particular faith? Where will they go to school and what’s the procedure if something goes wrong, such as a medical emergency at school? Getting the fundamentals right is the first step toward successful co-parenting and it gives you a platform to build from.

There are professionals who specialize in assisting in the drafting of a comprehensive parenting plan.  Mostly, these individuals have a mental health background and understand developmental needs of children.
<h2>Stick to the schedule</h2>
In some circumstances, you may need to divert from the parenting schedule a little bit. However, for the most part, the schedule is meant to be a default if you can’t agree to making some changes to the schedule. Consistency benefits both parents and the child. Children tend to benefit from stability and routine. The routine of a parenting schedule also lets parents know where they stand.
<h2>The best interests of the child</h2>
No matter what, something that parents can always agree on is that they want their children to be happy. Their best interests are what matters most. If you believe the children’s’ best interests are not being met and want to change the schedule, you may end up having a judge decide that for you. If you feel that your rights as a parent have been violated or believe the children’s best interests are at issue, then it’s important to seek some <a href="https://www.harrisandfraser.com/family-law-overview/child-custody/" data-wpel-link="internal">legal guidance</a>.]]></content>
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	        <entry>
            <author>
									                    <name>On Behalf of Harris and Fraser</name>
				            </author>
            <title type="html"><![CDATA[4 Tips For Effective Co-Parenting]]></title>
            <link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="https://www.harrisandfraser.com/blog/2022/10/4-tips-for-effective-co-parenting/" />
            <id>https://www.harrisandfraser.com/?p=49325</id>
            <updated>2023-08-25T15:05:01Z</updated>
            <published>2022-10-24T19:03:22Z</published>
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            <summary type="html"><![CDATA[Co-parenting can be a difficult task, but with a plan in place, it can be a lot smoother.  Here are some tips for effective co-parenting that can help make things easier for you and your child.  The importance of working together For children to thrive, it is important for co-parents to work together. By doing so, they can provide a…]]></summary>
			                <content type="html" xml:base="https://www.harrisandfraser.com/blog/2022/10/4-tips-for-effective-co-parenting/"><![CDATA[<span style="font-weight: 400;">Co-parenting can be a difficult task, but with a plan in place, it can be a lot smoother. </span>

<span style="font-weight: 400;">Here are some tips for effective co-parenting that can help make things easier for you and your child. </span>
<h2><span style="font-weight: 400;">The importance of working together</span></h2>
<span style="font-weight: 400;">For children to thrive, it is important for </span><a href="https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/coparenting" data-wpel-link="external" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer"><span style="font-weight: 400;">co-parents to work together.</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;"> By doing so, they can provide a stable and supportive environment for their children. Keep the following in mind as you and your ex navigate this new territory:</span>
<ol>
 	<li><span style="font-weight: 400;">Communicate with each other regularly to ensure that the children are receiving the best possible care. This communication should include updates on their health, school, and activities. Furthermore, co-parents should make an effort to resolve any conflicts that may arise in a timely and respectful manner. </span></li>
 	<li><span style="font-weight: 400;">Discuss roles and responsibilities to help ensure that each parent knows what is expected of them and can make any necessary adjustments. Furthermore, it is essential to be flexible and willing to negotiate as roles and responsibilities may need to change over time. </span></li>
 	<li><span style="font-weight: 400;">Put your children's needs first. Set aside your feelings and disagreements to create a stable, loving environment for your child. It can be difficult to control your emotions but remember that your child is also going through a tough time. They need your support and love more than ever. Try to take the time to talk to your child about what they're feeling and give them plenty of hugs and kisses. </span></li>
 	<li><span style="font-weight: 400;">Be respectful of each other's time and space. Try to avoid scheduling conflicts by communicating with each other in advance. If possible, refrain from discussing sensitive topics in front of your children. </span></li>
 	<li>Finally, if you find co-parenting challenging, there are apps available to use for communication with your ex, rather than phone calls, emails or texts.  You will also find helpful co-parenting workshops or individuals who specialize in co-parenting counseling to help you and your former navigate the new relationship of co-parenting.</li>
</ol>
<span style="font-weight: 400;">Collaborative Divorce can be difficult, but it is possible to have a successful co-parenting relationship. By putting your children's needs first, communicating regularly, and showing each other respect, you can </span><a href="https://www.harrisandfraser.com/family-law-overview/child-custody/" data-wpel-link="internal"><span style="font-weight: 400;">create a parenting plan</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;"> that works for both of you and your children. </span>]]></content>
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            <author>
									                    <name>On Behalf of Harris and Fraser</name>
				            </author>
            <title type="html"><![CDATA[5 Questions To Ask If Your Marriage Is Failing]]></title>
            <link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="https://www.harrisandfraser.com/blog/2022/09/5-questions-to-ask-if-your-marriage-is-failing/" />
            <id>https://www.harrisandfraser.com/?p=49315</id>
            <updated>2026-06-17T16:33:12Z</updated>
            <published>2022-09-08T11:12:50Z</published>
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            <summary type="html"><![CDATA[People often change after marriage. You and your spouse likely see each other every day, which may reveal things you didn’t know about your spouse before marriage.  Marriage doesn’t last for everyone. There may be signs that your marriage is failing. Asking the right questions may help you see if it’s time for a change: 1. Are you arguing a…]]></summary>
			                <content type="html" xml:base="https://www.harrisandfraser.com/blog/2022/09/5-questions-to-ask-if-your-marriage-is-failing/"><![CDATA[<span style="font-weight: 400;">People often change after marriage. You and your spouse likely see each other every day, which may reveal things you didn’t know about your spouse before marriage. </span>

<span style="font-weight: 400;">Marriage doesn't last for everyone. There may be signs that your marriage is failing. Asking the right questions may help you see if it’s time for a change:</span>
<h2>1. Are you arguing a lot?</h2>
<span style="font-weight: 400;">One telltale sign of a failing marriage is an </span><a href="https://www.marriage.com/advice/separation/10-signs-you-are-in-a-troubled-marriage/" data-wpel-link="external" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer"><span style="font-weight: 400;">excessive amount of arguing</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;">. People often fight in marriages, but if there’s no resolution after a fight, then there may be problems.</span>
<h2><span style="font-weight: 400;">2. Are you doing all the household chores?</span></h2>
<span style="font-weight: 400;">Your spouse may have been a bit messy before marriage, but you may find yourself cleaning up after them and yourself. This could be putting extra stress on your life.</span>
<h2><span style="font-weight: 400;">3. Have you felt close with your partner since marriage?</span></h2>
<span style="font-weight: 400;">You may not do things with your spouse you once did after marriage. If you haven’t bonded with your spouse recently, then could there be trouble in your marriage?</span>
<h2><span style="font-weight: 400;">4. Is your spouse eating through your income?</span></h2>
<span style="font-weight: 400;">Do you provide for both you and your spouse? If your spouse isn’t putting in their effort to support the marriage, then it could be causing you strain on your finances. </span>
<h2><span style="font-weight: 400;">5. Are you thinking about what your life could be if you never married?</span></h2>
<span style="font-weight: 400;">Some people fantasize about what life could be if they were never married. This may be a sign you might be unhappily married and searching for alternatives.</span>

<span style="font-weight: 400;">If you feel these questions resonate with you, then it may be time for a change of pace in your life. You may want to </span><a href="https://www.harrisandfraser.com/family-law-overview/divorce/" data-wpel-link="internal"><span style="font-weight: 400;">reach out for legal help</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;"> who can provide you with options when discussing your marriage. </span>]]></content>
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            <author>
									                    <name>On Behalf of Harris and Fraser</name>
				            </author>
            <title type="html"><![CDATA[2 Ways Collaborative Divorce Can Actually Improve Your Life]]></title>
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            <id>https://www.harrisandfraser.com/?p=49304</id>
            <updated>2023-08-25T15:06:28Z</updated>
            <published>2022-09-07T16:35:28Z</published>
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            <summary type="html"><![CDATA[Many people are often under the assumption that their lives will be over after a divorce. Some people who have been married for decades may not know how to envision life without their spouse.  It can be troubling to have your entire world spun upside down – but you may actually find that divorce improves your quality of life. Here…]]></summary>
			                <content type="html" xml:base="https://www.harrisandfraser.com/blog/2022/09/2-ways-divorce-can-actually-improve-your-life/"><![CDATA[<span style="font-weight: 400;">Many people are often under the assumption that their lives will be over after a divorce. Some people who have been married for decades may not know how to envision life without their spouse. </span>

<span style="font-weight: 400;">It can be troubling to have your entire world spun upside down – but you may actually find that divorce improves your quality of life. Here are two ways that can happen:</span>
<h2><span style="font-weight: 400;">Through a regained sense of individuality </span></h2>
<span style="font-weight: 400;">Many people have to give up something close to them when they're married. There may have been a hobby that you enjoyed and were no longer able to find time for your married life: writing, fishing, woodwork, etc. Or, there may have been financial difficulties in your marriage that prevented you from continuing to work on a pet project.</span>

<span style="font-weight: 400;">You may find yourself with a </span><a href="https://arcadiancounseling.com/unexpected-benefits-of-single-after-divorce/" data-wpel-link="external" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer"><span style="font-weight: 400;">newfound sense of individuality after divorce</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;"> as you revisit old hobbies and dreams. There may even be fewer financial obligations that tie you down.</span>
<h2><span style="font-weight: 400;">Through building more self-reliance</span></h2>
<span style="font-weight: 400;">It's an easy habit to look to your partner for help in life during marriage. You might find yourself hanging onto old habits after divorce, but distancing yourself from depending on your spouse for everything may be beneficial in the long run.</span>

<span style="font-weight: 400;">You may find that you can build new skills that you once relied on your spouse to provide. There may be learning experiences that you were protected from in a marriage that will enable new mental, physical or spiritual growth.</span>

<span style="font-weight: 400;">If you’re ready to take the next step in your life, then you may want to seek legal assistance. You don't have to fear divorce, but making the right decisions during <a href="https://www.harrisandfraser.com/family-law-overview/divorce/" data-wpel-link="internal">the divorce process</a> could improve your future well-being.</span>]]></content>
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	        <entry>
            <author>
									                    <name>On Behalf of Harris and Fraser</name>
				            </author>
            <title type="html"><![CDATA[Smart Money Moves To Take Before Filing For Collaborative Divorce]]></title>
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            <id>https://www.harrisandfraser.com/?p=49307</id>
            <updated>2026-06-19T00:49:49Z</updated>
            <published>2022-09-06T11:12:00Z</published>
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            <summary type="html"><![CDATA[Collaborative Divorce represents a huge transition in most people’s lives. While you may be ready to separate from your spouse, you should also plan for the financial aspect of this change.  Once you are divorced, you will be in a single-income household and in charge of all financial decisions. Some tips to help you financially prepare for this can be…]]></summary>
			                <content type="html" xml:base="https://www.harrisandfraser.com/blog/2022/09/smart-money-moves-to-take-before-filing-for-divorce/"><![CDATA[<span style="font-weight: 400;">Collaborative Divorce represents a huge transition in most people’s lives. While you may be ready to separate from your spouse, you should also plan for the financial aspect of this change. </span>

<span style="font-weight: 400;">Once you are divorced, you will be in a single-income household and in charge of all financial decisions. Some tips to help you </span><span style="font-weight: 400;">financially prepare</span><span style="font-weight: 400;"> for this can be found here. </span>
<h2>Gather financial documents</h2>
<span style="font-weight: 400;">If you have taken a backseat to financial decisions for years, you need to figure out what’s going on. This requires you to gather bank statements, retirement account information, tax returns, investment information, mortgage statements, and anything related to your financial situation. </span>

<span style="font-weight: 400;">Getting a clear picture of your financial situation before a divorce will help you ensure you get a fair settlement in the process. </span>
<h2>Document all your costs</h2>
<span style="font-weight: 400;">You need to know what your expenses are. Take time to gather receipts for the past three months and credit card statements and then break down your spending into categories. Knowing what you need to live is essential when filing for divorce. </span>
<h2>Open your own bank account</h2>
<span style="font-weight: 400;">Make sure you have your own bank account. It may be wise to choose a bank separate from where you have your joint accounts. (Do not, however, drain your existing accounts without legal guidance. That could get you into trouble down the road.)</span>
<h2>Preparing for a divorce</h2>
<span style="font-weight: 400;">Collaborative Divorce is challenging even in the best situations. Taking steps to prepare for </span><a href="https://www.harrisandfraser.com/family-law-overview/divorce/" data-wpel-link="internal"><span style="font-weight: 400;">life after divorce</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;"> is a process and something to think about early, sometimes even before you file. Understanding your legal options will pay off. </span>]]></content>
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	        <entry>
            <author>
									                    <name>On Behalf of Harris and Fraser</name>
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            <title type="html"><![CDATA[How Is The Marital Estate Divided In California?]]></title>
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            <id>https://www.harrisandfraser.com/?p=49310</id>
            <updated>2023-08-25T15:07:31Z</updated>
            <published>2022-08-23T10:37:36Z</published>
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            <summary type="html"><![CDATA[You probably bought a house with your spouse and made other investments during your marriage. Therefore, when you decide to divorce, you know you’re entitled to a share of those assets and property. Altogether, these assets are known as the marital estate. If you can agree with your spouse on how to divide up the marital estate, that’s well and…]]></summary>
			                <content type="html" xml:base="https://www.harrisandfraser.com/blog/2022/08/how-is-the-marital-estate-divided-in-california/"><![CDATA[<span style="font-weight: 400;">You probably bought a house with your spouse and made other investments during your marriage. Therefore, when you decide to divorce, you know you’re entitled to a share of those assets and property. Altogether, these assets are known as the marital estate.</span>

<span style="font-weight: 400;">If you can agree with your spouse on how to divide up the marital estate, that’s well and good. All you have to do is take such an agreement to a divorce court for approval. However, if you can’t decide who gets what, a judge can make that call for you, guided by state laws.</span>
<h2>How property division works in California</h2>
<span style="font-weight: 400;">California is a community property state. In the absence of a legally binding agreement that states otherwise, like a prenup, </span><a href="https://leginfo.legislature.ca.gov/faces/codes_displaySection.xhtml?lawCode=FAM&amp;sectionNum=2550." data-wpel-link="external" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer"><span style="font-weight: 400;">marital assets are divided equally</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;"> upon divorce in California. Both you and your soon-to-be ex have an equal share in assets acquired during your marriage.</span>

<span style="font-weight: 400;">They include:</span>
<ul>
 	<li><span style="font-weight: 400;">Retirement accounts</span></li>
 	<li>Cars</li>
 	<li>Income</li>
 	<li>Stock options, among others</li>
</ul>
<span style="font-weight: 400;">Notably, separate property is not affected by a divorce. You do not have to worry about losing half your inheritance to your ex-spouse or other assets you owned before the marriage - although there are exceptions, particularly when the separate and marital property has been mixed together. In such a case, such assets can be considered community property.</span>
<h2>Protecting your interests</h2>
<span style="font-weight: 400;">There is more to property division than assets. Debts are also a crucial part of the conversation and must be divided too. Learning more about how everything works and what you deserve from the divorce will help you safeguard your rights and avoid getting a raw deal.</span>

<span style="font-weight: 400;">Collaborative Divorce can be emotionally draining and overwhelming, especially if it is contested. Therefore, it is advisable </span><a href="https://www.harrisandfraser.com/family-law-overview/property-division/" data-wpel-link="internal"><span style="font-weight: 400;">to reach out for assistance</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;"> at the very start.</span>]]></content>
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